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I’ve been pondering how all of my choices either add to my life or they don’t. They give wings or become anchors.

I know. It’s not profound.

And yet, it has been for me lately. I have been mulling over and attempting to categorize ways I spend time, food I eat, activities I complete, activities I leave undone.

The thing that started all of this was an activity I was completing for a part-time job I have. A certain aspect of it completely zaps my energy. It doesn’t even take that much time but it might as well take 16 hours because at the end of it, I am a zombie. It sucks the life out of me.

I started searching for more activities that drain rather than refresh. What else do I regularly do that ends up making me feel worse than I did when I started?

I’m not saying we only do activities we love. Pedicures and yoga all day. That’s not real life. We have to do laundry and grocery shop. We must clip the fingernails of the masses and wipe noses to infinity. I’m speaking of the moments where we DO have choices. What are we choosing that is draining?

It didn’t take long to realize that for me, right now, it’s social media. In my gallant attempt at taking the blogging world by storm (and let me tell you, I have. It’s reeling my friends…), I have been doing all the “right” things. Even as my twitter numbers and my Klout score increases (who even knows what that is?) I care less and less about any of it. I get closer and closer to being done with the whole writing situation. Life-draining.

Laura Krokos spoke about social media at the Declare Conference and she mentioned that social media gets a bad wrap because it has a way of seeping into all areas of our lives.

But we need to remember,” she encouraged, “social media doesn’t have a sin issue, we do.”

I’m sure she said many other profound words. I was still back at that one statement though. The one that punched me in the stomach. I am the one with the issue here. It’s not Facebook’s fault.  Sorry for blaming you, Mark.

I was just talking to my daughter today about how it’s not right that the whole time she is having her special weekly day with Grandma, all she wants to do is watch television. Her grandma lets her because she’s a grandma and that’s what they do. It’s not about her watching TV. It’s not about if Grandma let’s her. I couldn’t care less.  I am at Starbucks having a latte. My issue is the fixation on a life-less thing.  Grandma might as well be on the moon for her “special day.”

I LOVE the honesty of children. When I told her my TV concern and that grandma time was not actually meant to be a TV festival, her quick sincere reply, “Well, it’s not my fault. She needs to hide the TV when I get there then.”

Ah. So it’s Grandma’s fault.  For not redecorating on a weekly basis…

Hilarious. Ridiculous. Convicting.

I, too, am desperate to blame someone else for choices I make that do not give life.

Join me. Inspect your choices. Not for the purpose of feeling badly, but in hopes of finding ways to fly instead of sink.

I’d sincerely love to hear what you find.

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This was written in five minutes for Five Minute Friday over at Lisa-Jo Baker’s place. Hundreds of people link up every Friday to write for five minutes about her one word prompt. You should try your hand at it!

 

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25 thoughts on “Five Minute Friday: Fly

  1. Chandra Hadfield

    This is so good. So much truth, and things that have been on my heart lately as well. I love how God uses other people at FMF to drive His point home to me. I just blogged about this very thing a little over a week ago, and how God has shown me that I have an issue with social media. But, I love this line from this post “I care less and less about any of it. I get closer and closer to being done with the whole writing situation. Life-draining.” I feel like you wrote my story today! Loved every word!

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  2. Lisha Epperson

    Hi Emily! You’re right about the issue. The issue is ours. It’s incredibly hard to balance and not be consumed by social media. Under the guise of following a vision we get trapped in the web. When the words/work sap our time, don’t focus on, or keep us from Him, well, we’re in error. Thank you Emily for speaking on this. I want to fly.

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    1. emily Post author

      Trapped is definitely what it’s been feeling like lately!
      Hoping to make a few changes in December. We’ll see how it helps me.
      Thanks for reading!

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  3. Mary Hill

    I am retired now and should have all the “time” in the world to focus on the “important” things. The problem is what are the “important” things. We know in our heart that Jesus should be the most important thing of all. It should be easy to narrow our focus to him. Easy though is hard isn’t it? We have so much to going on and life flies by. We fly with it. To get out of that stream; to step outside time; and to move in slow mo (my slang for motion). My goal, my focus is to fly with Him. I just wrote another five minute post. Anyway, thanks for inspiring this line of thought with your wonderful post. :)

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    1. emily Post author

      Interesting that even having more free time didn’t make you focus more. I have noticed that in myself as well. Give me a few extra minutes and I will figure out how to fritter them away! Thanks for coming by!

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  4. Kate Ordway

    Can grandma come hide the popcorn and coke I consume by the truck loads during nap time? It’s really weighing me down. Great post.

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    1. emily Post author

      Ok. I probably won’t. I did take facebook off of my phone though so that might help. Oh, and I’m going to start to blame you for my issues since it works so well for the girl child. Ok?

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  5. Melissa

    This hits home (as do all your posts). I think it’s something I should start looking for, when I feel annoyed by something, what is it in *me* that’s causing that, what choices around that thing am I making that are resulting in the bad feelings about it. (that is the worst sentence ever, but it makes sense to me, and validates my decision to read everyone else’s FMFs rather than attempt one myself, ha!)

    Melissa~

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    1. emily Post author

      That wasn’t the worst sentence ever. I got your point!
      You should write one! Even if you don’t post it. I usually end up surprised by what come out every time.
      Thanks for reading, Melissa!

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    1. emily Post author

      Well, Anna, you’re just the sweetest thing!
      Have you written one yet? You had mentioned your Friday linky ended. Try it! Make sure to tell me if you do. So many people join I might miss it.

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  6. Somer

    I totally agree about the fact that so many things….good things or neutral things suck the life out of us…This past fall the women’s group im apart of did the Lifeway 7 Bible study by Jen Hatmaker and there are a few chapters in the book that really cause you to evaluate some “good” things in your life…gives you new fresh eyes into some daily topics…like clothes, tv, Facebook, stress, etc…doing the weekly fasts was very eye opening…There is one chapter on stress and includes the Sabbath and doing Sabbath and let me tell you that was wonderful. i’m still trying to do some of the sabbath pauses… its a great book to evaluate some paradigms and priorities

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    1. emily Post author

      I have that book!
      I should really read it! :) Your recommendation is the extra push I need. I will make it next on my list.
      Thanks for your words!

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  7. Perfection Pending

    I’ve been trying to stay off the computer at certain times of the day. I just had the thought though that I’m never going to actually do it unless I physically turn it off. So, I think i might try that this week.

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  8. Lisa

    I’m feeling your pain in this. I just said this week that I was seriously thinking of quitting. I would hate it if you did though…. I’ve just discovered you recently and so, so enjoy your writing. Please, feel free to not reply to this….you need all the time you can get. Hope the time it takes to read this encourages you though. :) Blessings…

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    1. emily Post author

      I think I will just scale back on all of the extra stuff for awhile and refocus. That’s good to do from time to time anyway. Thanks for keeping on coming back, Lisa!

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